Prejudiced Language

As Chapter 4 discusses, prejudice means presuming negative things about other people based on their group affiliation (ethnicity, religion, age, gender, sexual orientation). It is a negative form of stereotyping. People who use prejudiced language speak in ways that display contempt, dislike, or disdain for a group or its members. In South Park, for example, Cartman uses prejudiced language almost constantly when he talks with his Jewish friend Kyle and when he sees “hippies”—anyone with long hair and tie-dyed clothing.

There are as many types of prejudiced language as there are groups. A person can use language that’s prejudiced toward men or women (sexist language) or toward gays, lesbians, bisexuals, or transgendered persons (homophobic language). It can also be used to criticize various ethnicities (racist language), people of different ages (ageist language), and even socioeconomic groups (classist language). Some people use prejudiced language when discussing physical or mental disabilities, political affiliations, social or religious groups, and even collegiate majors.

Most of us readily recognize racist, sexist, and disability-related slurs. But prejudiced language can be less obvious—for example, when people use ethnic and gender-specific modifiers to describe others even when such descriptors are unnecessary to the point they’re making (“the Hispanic doctor” or “a male nurse”). Subtle prejudiced language also shows up in the use of such expressions as “That’s so gay,” to mean that something isn’t “cool” or “acceptable.” Such expressions are hurtful and perpetuate negative stereotypes.

What can you do if another person’s language is prejudiced and offensive? As we discuss in Chapter 8 about managing conflict, confronting others is rarely easy, but it can be done. Consider the following suggestions: