Is the availability of sex chat groups and other sexual material on the Internet psychologically healthy or damaging?
paraphilias Patterns in which a person has recurrent and intense sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors involving nonhuman objects, children, nonconsenting adults, or experiences of suffering or humiliation.
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Paraphilias are patterns in which people repeatedly have intense sexual urges or fantasies or display sexual behaviors that involve objects or situations outside the usual sexual norms. The sexual focus may, for example, involve nonhuman objects or the experience of suffering or humiliation. Many people with a paraphilia can become aroused only when a paraphilic stimulus is present, fantasized about, or acted out. Others need the stimulus only during times of stress or under other special circumstances. Some people with one kind of paraphilia have others as well (Seto, Kingston, & Bourget, 2014). The large consumer market in paraphilic pornography and growing trends such as sexting and cybersex lead clinicians to suspect that paraphilias are, in fact, quite common (Ahlers et al., 2011; Pipe, 2010) (see MindTech below).
paraphilic disorder A disorder in which a person’s paraphilia causes great distress, interferes with social or occupational activities, or places the person or others at risk of harm—
According to DSM-
Although theorists have proposed various explanations for paraphilic disorders, there is little formal evidence to support such explanations (Becker et al., 2012). Moreover, none of the many treatments applied to these disorders have received much research or proved clearly effective. Psychological and sociocultural treatments have been available the longest, but today’s professionals are also using biological interventions.
Some practitioners administer drugs called antiandrogens that lower the production of testosterone, the male sex hormone, and reduce the sex drive (Assumpção et al., 2014). Although antiandrogens may indeed reduce paraphilic patterns, several of them disrupt normal sexual feelings and behavior as well. Thus the drugs tend to be used primarily when the paraphilic disorders are of particular danger either to the individuals themselves or to other people. Clinicians are also increasingly prescribing SSRIs, the serotonin-
A word of caution is in order before examining the various paraphilic disorders. The definitions of these disorders, like those of sexual dysfunctions, are strongly influenced by the norms of the particular society in which they occur (McManus et al., 2013). Some clinicians argue that except when other people are hurt by them, at least some paraphilic behaviors should not be considered disorders at all (De Block & Adriaens, 2013; Wright, 2010). Especially in light of the stigma associated with sexual disorders and the self-
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“Sexting”: Healthy or Pathological?
“Sexting” is the sending of sexually explicit material—
Surveys suggest that 20 percent of cell phone users have texted a sexually explicit photo of themselves and 40 percent have received a sexually explicit photo (McAfee, 2014; Strassberg et al., 2013). Half of all people save the sexual images and text messages they receive and more than 25 percent of recipients forward the sexual photos that they receive to others.
Naïve behavior? Not always. More than one-
Is sexting a symptom of abnormal functioning? It depends. Certainly, some sexters fit the criteria for exhibitionistic disorder, the paraphilic pattern in which people act on urges to expose their genitals to others. Sixteen percent of sexters send sexual photos of themselves to complete strangers (McAfee, 2014). And like other forms of exhibitionism, sexting can cause psychological problems for nonconsenting recipients (Smith et al., 2014).
There are yet other ways in which sexting may reflect psychological or relationship problems. According to one study, people who sext to strangers or other nonconsenting recipients are more likely to have general problems with attachment or intimacy than other people (Drouin & Landgraff, 2012). In addition, research indicates that sexting (when done outside of one’s marriage or monogamous relationship) is often a step toward infidelity. Some psychologists believe that sexting is itself a form of infidelity even though it does not involve physical contact. It has even been the grounds for divorce in some cases (Centeno, 2011; Cable, 2008).
On the other side of the coin, sexting can be a constructive activity, according to some psychologists. Many couples engage in it as an added dimension to their marriage or relationship. According to surveys, more than half of all couples have texted sexual photos or messages to their partners at least once, one-
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fetishistic disorder A paraphilic disorder consisting of recurrent and intense sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors that involve the use of a nonliving object or nongenital part, often to the exclusion of all other stimuli, accompanied by clinically significant distress or impairment.
One relatively common paraphilic disorder is fetishistic disorder. Key features of this disorder are recurrent intense sexual urges, sexually arousing fantasies, or behaviors that involve the use of a nonliving object or nongenital body part, often to the exclusion of all other stimuli (APA, 2013). Usually the disorder, which is far more common in men than in women, begins in adolescence. Almost anything can be a fetish; women’s underwear, shoes, and boots are particularly common. Some people with this disorder steal in order to collect as many of the desired objects as possible. The objects may be touched, smelled, worn, or used in some other way while the person masturbates, or the person may ask a partner to wear the object when they have sex (Marshall et al., 2008). Several of these features are seen in the following case:
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To the best of the patient’s memory, sexual excitement began at about age 7, when he came upon a pornographic magazine and felt stimulated by pictures of partially nude women wearing “panties.” His first ejaculation occurred at 13 via masturbation to fantasies of women wearing panties. He masturbated into his older sister’s panties, which he had stolen without her knowledge. Subsequently he stole panties from her friends and from other women he met socially. He found pretexts to “wander” into the bedrooms of women during social occasions, and would quickly rummage through their possessions until he found a pair of panties to his satisfaction. He later used these to masturbate into, and then “saved them” in a “private cache.” The pattern of masturbating into women’s underwear had been his preferred method of achieving sexual excitement and orgasm from adolescence until the present consultation.
(Spitzer et al., 1994, p. 247)
Researchers have not been able to pinpoint the causes of fetishistic disorder. Behaviorists propose that fetishes are acquired through classical conditioning (Dozier, Iwata, & Worsdell, 2011; Roche & Quayle, 2007). In a pioneering behavioral study, male participants were shown a series of slides of nude women along with slides of boots (Rachman, 1966). After many trials, the participants became aroused by the boot photos alone. If early sexual experiences similarly occur in the presence of particular objects, perhaps the stage is set for the development of fetishes.
Behaviorists have sometimes treated fetishistic disorder with aversion therapy (Plaud, 2007; Krueger & Kaplan, 2002). In one study, an electric shock was administered to the arms or legs of participants with this disorder while they imagined their objects of desire (Marks & Gelder, 1967). After two weeks of therapy all men in the study showed at least some improvement. In another aversion technique, covert sensitization, people with fetishistic disorder are guided to imagine the pleasurable object and repeatedly to pair this image with an imagined aversive stimulus until the object of sexual pleasure is no longer desired.
masturbatory satiation A behavioral treatment in which a client masturbates for a long period of time while fantasizing in detail about a paraphilic object. The procedure is expected to produce a feeling of boredom that becomes linked to the object.
Another behavioral treatment for fetishistic disorder is masturbatory satiation (Plaud, 2007). In this method, the client masturbates to orgasm while fantasizing about a sexually appropriate object, then switches to fantasizing in detail about fetishistic objects while masturbating again and continues the fetishistic fantasy for an hour. The procedure is meant to produce a feeling of boredom, which in turn becomes linked to the fetishistic object.
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orgasmic reorientation A procedure for treating certain paraphilias by teaching clients to respond to new, more appropriate sources of sexual stimulation.
Yet another behavioral approach to fetishistic disorder, also used for other paraphilias, is orgasmic reorientation, which teaches individuals to respond to more appropriate sources of sexual stimulation (Wright & Hatcher, 2006). People are shown conventional stimuli while they are responding to unconventional objects. A person with a shoe fetish, for example, may be instructed to obtain an erection from pictures of shoes and then to begin masturbating to a picture of a nude woman. If he starts to lose the erection, he must return to the pictures of shoes until he is masturbating effectively, then change back to the picture of the nude woman. When orgasm approaches, he must direct all attention to the conventional stimulus.
transvestic disorder A paraphilic disorder consisting of repeated and intense sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors that involve dressing in clothes of the opposite sex, accompanied by clinically significant distress or impairment. Also known as transvestism or cross-
A person with transvestic disorder, also known as transvestism or cross-
I have been told that when I dress in drag, at times I look like Whistler’s Mother [laughs], especially when I haven’t shaved closely. I usually am good at detail, and I make sure when I dress as a woman that I have my nails done just so, and that my colors match. Honestly, it’s hard to pin a date on when I began cross dressing…. If pressed, I would have to say it began when I was about 10 years of age, fooling around with and putting on my mom’s clothes…. I was always careful to put everything back in its exact place, and in 18 years of doing this in her home, my mother never, I mean never, suspected, or questioned me about putting on her clothes. I belong to a transvestite support group …. group for men who cross dress. Some of the group are homosexuals, but most are not. A true transvestite—
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Most of [the men in the group] have told their families about their dressing inclinations, but those that are married are a mixed lot; some wives know and some don’t, they just suspect. I believe in honesty, and told my wife about this before we were married. We’re separated now, but I don’t think it’s because of my cross dressing…. Some of my friends, when I was growing up, suggested psychotherapy, but I don’t regard this as a problem. If it bothers someone else, then they have the problem…. I function perfectly well sexually with my wife, though it took her some time to be comfortable with me wearing feminine underwear; yes, sometimes I wear it while making love, it just makes it more exciting.
(Janus & Janus, 1993, p. 121)
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Sexual Census
The World Health Organization estimates that around 115 million acts of sexual intercourse occur each day.
Like this man, the typical person with transvestic disorder, almost always a heterosexual male, begins cross-
The development of transvestic disorder sometimes seems to follow the behavioral principles of operant conditioning. In such cases, parents or other adults may openly encourage the child to cross-
exhibitionistic disorder A paraphilic disorder in which persons have repeated sexually arousing urges or fantasies about exposing their genitals to others, and either act on these urges with nonconsenting individuals or experience clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with exhibitionistic disorder experiences recurrent and intense sexual arousal from exposing his genitals to an unsuspecting individual—
Generally, exhibitionistic disorder begins before age 18 and usually, but not always, is found among men (APA, 2013). Some studies suggest that those with the disorder are typically immature in their dealings with the opposite sex and have difficulty in interpersonal relationships (Marshall et al., 2008; Murphy & Page, 2006). Around 30 percent of them are married and another 30 percent divorced or separated; their sexual relations with their wives are not usually satisfactory (Doctor & Neff, 2001). Many have doubts or fears about their masculinity, and some seem to have a strong bond to a possessive mother. As with other paraphilic disorders, treatment generally includes aversion therapy and masturbatory satiation, possibly combined with orgasmic reorientation, social skills training, or cognitive-
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voyeuristic disorder A paraphilic disorder in which a person has repeated and intense sexual desires to observe unsuspecting people in secret as they undress or to spy on couples having intercourse, and either acts on these urges with nonconsenting people or experiences clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with voyeuristic disorder experiences recurrent and intense sexual arousal from observing an unsuspecting individual who is naked, disrobing, or engaging in sexual activity. As with other paraphilic disorders, this arousal takes the form of fantasies, urges, or behaviors (APA, 2013). The disorder usually begins before the age of 15 and tends to persist.
A person with voyeuristic disorder may masturbate during the act of observing or when thinking about it afterward but does not generally seek to have sex with the person being spied on. The vulnerability of the people being observed and the probability that they would feel humiliated if they knew they were under observation are often part of the enjoyment. In addition, the risk of being discovered adds to the excitement.
Voyeurism, like exhibitionism, is often a source of sexual excitement in fantasy; it can also play a role in normal sexual interactions, but in such cases it is engaged in with the partner’s consent or understanding. The clinical disorder of voyeuristic disorder is marked by the repeated invasion of other people’s privacy. Some people with the disorder are unable to have normal sexual relations; others have a normal sex life apart from their disorder.
Many psychodynamic clinicians propose that people with voyeuristic disorder are seeking by their actions to gain power over others, possibly because they feel inadequate or are sexually or socially shy (Metzl, 2004). Behaviorists explain the disorder as a learned behavior that can be traced to a chance and secret observation of a sexually arousing scene (Lavin, 2008). If the onlookers observe such scenes on several occasions while masturbating, they may develop a voyeuristic pattern.
frotteuristic disorder A paraphilic disorder in which a person has repeated and intense sexual urges or fantasies that involve touching and rubbing against a nonconsenting person, and either acts on these urges with the nonconsenting person or experiences clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with frotteuristic disorder experiences repeated and intense sexual arousal from touching or rubbing against a nonconsenting person. The arousal may, like with the other paraphilic disorders, take the form of fantasies, urges, or behaviors. Frottage (from French frotter, “to rub”) is usually committed in a crowded place, such as a subway or a busy sidewalk (Guterman, Martin, & Rudes, 2010). The person, almost always a male, may rub his genitals against the victim’s thighs or buttocks or fondle her genital area or breasts with his hands. Typically he fantasizes during the act that he is having a caring relationship with the victim. This paraphilia usually begins in the teenage years or earlier, often after the person observes others committing an act of frottage. After the age of about 25, people gradually decrease and often cease their acts of frottage (APA, 2000).
pedophilic disorder A paraphilic disorder in which a person has repeated and intense sexual urges or fantasies about watching, touching, or engaging in sexual acts with children, and either acts on these urges or experiences clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with pedophilic disorder experiences equal or greater sexual arousal from children than from physically mature people. This arousal is expressed through fantasies, urges, or behaviors (APA, 2013). Those with the disorder may be attracted to prepubescent children (classic type), early pubescent children (hebephilic type), or both (pedohebephilic type). Some people with pedophilic disorder are satisfied by child pornography or seemingly innocent material such as children’s underwear ads; others are driven to actually watch, touch, fondle, or engage in sexual intercourse with children (Babchishin, Hanson, & VanZuylen, 2014; Schmidt et al., 2014). Some people with the disorder are attracted only to children; others are attracted to adults as well. Both boys and girls can be pedophilic victims, but there is evidence suggesting that two-
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People with pedophilic disorder usually develop their pattern of sexual need during adolescence (Farkas, 2013). Some were themselves sexually abused as children (Nunes et al., 2013), and many were neglected, excessively punished, or deprived of genuinely close relationships during their childhood. It is not unusual for them to be married and to have sexual difficulties or other frustrations in life that lead them to seek an area in which they can be masters. Often these individuals are immature: their social and sexual skills may be underdeveloped, and thoughts of normal sexual relationships fill them with anxiety (Marshall & Marshall, 2015; Seto, 2008).
Some people with pedophilic disorder also have distorted thinking, such as, “It’s all right to have sex with children as long as they agree” (Roche & Quayle, 2007; Abel et al., 2001, 1984). It is not uncommon for pedophiles to blame the children for adult–
While many people with this disorder believe that their feelings are indeed wrong and abnormal, others consider adult sexual activity with children to be acceptable and normal. Some even have joined pedophile organizations that advocate abolishing the age-
Studies have found that most men with pedophilic disorder also display at least one additional psychological disorder (Farkas, 2013; McAnulty, 2006). Some theorists have proposed that pedophilic disorder may be related to biochemical or brain structure abnormalities, but such abnormalities have yet to receive consistent research support (Lucka & Dziemian, 2014; Wiebking & Northoff, 2013).
Most pedophilic offenders are imprisoned or forced into treatment if they are caught (Staller & Faller, 2010). After all, they are committing child sexual abuse when they take any steps toward sexual contact with a child (Farkas, 2013). There are now many residential registration and community notification laws across the United States that help law enforcement agencies and the public account for and control where convicted child sex offenders live and work (OJJDP, 2010).
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Treatments for pedophilic disorder include those already mentioned for other paraphilic disorders, such as aversion therapy, masturbatory satiation, orgasmic reorientation, cognitive-
sexual masochism disorder A paraphilic disorder in which a person has repeated and intense sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors that involve being humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer, accompanied by clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with sexual masochism disorder is repeatedly and intensely sexually aroused by the act of being humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer (APA, 2013). Again, this arousal may take such forms as fantasies, urges, or behaviors. Many people have fantasies of being forced into sexual acts against their will, but only those who are very distressed or impaired by the fantasies receive this diagnosis. Some people with the disorder act on the masochistic urges by themselves, perhaps tying, sticking pins into, or even cutting themselves. Others have their sexual partners restrain, tie up, blindfold, spank, paddle, whip, beat, electrically shock, “pin and pierce,” or humiliate them (APA, 2013).
An industry of products and services has arisen to meet the desires of people with the paraphilia or the paraphilic disorder of sexual masochism. Here a 34-
I get people here who have been all over looking for the right kind of pain they feel they deserve. Don’t ask me why they want pain, I’m not a psychologist; but when they have found us, they usually don’t go elsewhere. It may take some of the other girls an hour or even two hours to make these guys feel like they’ve had their treatment—
Among the things I do, that work really quickly and well, are: I put clothespins on their nipples, or pins in their [testicles]. Some of them need to see their own blood to be able to get off….
All the time that a torture scene is going on, there is constant dialogue…. I scream at the guy, and tell him what a no-
(Janus & Janus, 1993, p. 115)
In one form of sexual masochism disorder, hypoxyphilia, people strangle or smother themselves (or ask their partner to strangle them) in order to enhance their sexual pleasure. There have, in fact, been a disturbing number of clinical reports of autoerotic asphyxia, in which people, usually males and as young as 10 years old, may accidentally induce a fatal lack of oxygen by hanging, suffocating, or strangling themselves while masturbating (Sauvageau, 2014; Hucker, 2011, 2008). There is some debate as to whether the practice should be characterized as sexual masochism disorder, but it is at least sometimes accompanied by other acts of bondage.
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Most masochistic sexual fantasies begin in childhood. However, the person does not act out the urges until later, usually by early adulthood. The pattern typically continues for many years. Some people practice more and more dangerous acts over time or during times of particular stress (Krueger, 2010).
In many cases, sexual masochism disorder seems to have developed through the behavioral process of classical conditioning (Stekel, 2010; Akins, 2004). A classic case study tells of a teenage boy with a broken arm who was caressed and held close by an attractive nurse as the physician set his fracture, a procedure done in the past without anesthesia (Gebhard, 1965). The powerful combination of pain and sexual arousal the boy felt then may have been the cause of his later masochistic urges and acts.
sexual sadism disorder A paraphilic disorder in which a person has repeated and intense sexual urges or fantasies that involve inflicting suffering on others, and either acts on these urges with nonconsenting individuals or experiences clinically significant distress or impairment.
A person with sexual sadism disorder, usually male, is repeatedly and intensely sexually aroused by the physical or psychological suffering of another individual (APA, 2013). This arousal may be expressed through fantasies, urges, or behaviors, including acts such as dominating, restraining, blindfolding, cutting, strangling, mutilating, or even killing the victim (Nitschke et al., 2013). The label is derived from the name of the famous Marquis de Sade (1740–
People who fantasize about sexual sadism typically imagine that they have total control over a sexual victim who is terrified by the sadistic act. Many carry out sadistic acts with a consenting partner, often a person with sexual masochism disorder. Some, however, act out their urges on nonconsenting victims (Mokros et al., 2014). A number of rapists and sexual murderers, for example, exhibit sexual sadism disorder (Knecht, 2014; Healey et al., 2013). In all cases, the real or fantasized victim’s suffering is the key to arousal (Marshall & Marshall, 2015; Seto et al., 2012).
Fantasies of sexual sadism, like those of sexual masochism, may first appear in childhood or adolescence (Stone, 2010). People who engage in sadistic acts begin to do so by early adulthood (APA, 2013). The pattern is long-
Some behaviorists believe that classical conditioning is at work in sexual sadism disorder (Akins, 2004). While inflicting pain, perhaps unintentionally, on an animal or person, a teenager may feel intense emotions and sexual arousal. The association between inflicting pain and being aroused sexually sets the stage for a pattern of sexual sadism. Behaviorists also propose that the disorder may result from modeling, when adolescents observe others achieving sexual satisfaction by inflicting pain. Many Internet sex sites and sexual videos, magazines, and books in our society make such models readily available (Brophy, 2010).
Both psychodynamic and cognitive theorists suggest that people with sexual sadism disorder inflict pain in order to achieve a sense of power or control, necessitated perhaps by underlying feelings of sexual inadequacy (Marshall & Marshall, 2015). The sense of power in turn increases their sexual arousal (Stekel, 2010; Rathbone, 2001). Alternatively, certain biological studies have found signs of possible brain and hormonal abnormalities in people with sexual sadism (Harenski et al., 2012; Jacobs, 2011). None of these explanations, however, has been thoroughly investigated.
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Sex and the Law
In 1996 the California state legislature passed the first law in the United States allowing state judges to order antiandrogen drug treatments, often referred to as “chemical castration,” for repeat sex crime offenders, such as men who repeatedly commit pedophilic acts or rape. Since then, at least seven other states also have passed laws permitting some form of coerced antiandrogen drug treatment.
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The disorder has been treated by aversion therapy. The public’s view of and distaste for this procedure have been influenced by the novel and 1971 movie A Clockwork Orange, which depicts simultaneous presentations of violent images and drug-
PARAPHILIC DISORDERS Paraphilias are patterns characterized by recurrent and intense sexual urges, fantasies, or behaviors involving objects or situations outside the usual sexual norms—