Defining Relationships

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Think about the functions nonverbal communication is playing in this photo. Can you tell what emotions are being expressed? What about the relationships and interactions between the women? What does this tell you about the influence of nonverbal communication in our daily experiences?

© Paula Lerner/Aurora

You’re sitting at a local diner, eating lunch and people-watching. Two couples are sitting in nearby booths. One couple sits with one partner very close to the other. They cuddle, touch, and occasionally kiss. When they’re not touching, they’re smiling and gazing at each other. The couple sitting at the next booth over is behaving very differently. The man sits up tall and straight, his arms extended on both sides of the table. He glares at his partner, interrupts her, and doesn’t look at her when she’s talking. Her eyes are downcast, her hands are folded in her lap, and she speaks softly. What does the nonverbal communication of each of these couples tell you about the degree of intimacy in their relationship? The partners’ relative dominance? A final function of nonverbal communication is to define the nature of our interpersonal relationships. In particular, we use our nonverbal communication to create intimacy and define dominance or submissiveness in our relationships (Burgoon & Hoobler, 2002).

We use nonverbal communication to create intimacy and define dominance or submissiveness in our relationships.