If you strip away the particulars of what’s said and done during most conflicts, you’ll find power struggles underneath. Who has more influence? Who controls the resources, decisions, and feelings involved? People struggle to see whose goals will prevail, and they wield whatever power they have to pursue their own goals. But power struggles rarely lead to mutually beneficial solutions. As we’ll see, the more constructive approach is to set aside your power and work collaboratively to resolve the conflict.