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TABLE 8.1 CONFLICT STYLES: THE PIE INCIDENT

Type	Description	Examples
Escapist —Avoiding —Obliging	Conflict is avoided or given into; personal goals may not be important; conflict is not seen as a viable alternative	Postpone the pie debate (“Let’s not have dessert now”) Relinquish the pie (“You can have it”)
Competitive —Direct fighting —Indirect fighting	Individual goals are pursued; relationship may be threatened, especially if it gets aggressive	Claim the pie (“That’s my piece of pie”; “Oh, no, it’s not” ) Argue for your right to the pie (“I deserve this pie”) Hint that you’ll do something bad if you don’t get the pie (“It would be a shame if the pie ended up in the trash”)
Cooperative —Compromising —Collaborating	Pursuit of mutual interests; problem-solving approach emphasized; relationship is preserved	Share the pie Broker a deal (“I’ll do the dishes if you let me have the pie”) Address underlying needs (“Pie means having something special; how else can we each feel special?”)