Companionship

Humans feel a natural need for companionship and inclusion—to involve others in our lives and to be involved in the lives of others. Thus loneliness can be a major motivation behind some people’s desire for a relationship. In fact, psychological problems such as anxiety, stress, depression, alcoholism, drug abuse, and poor health have all been tied to loneliness (Canary & Spitzberg, 1993; Segrin & Passalacqua, 2010). Unfortunately, beginning a romantic relationship just for the sake of not being “alone” or confirming a ton of “friends” on Facebook does not mean that you won’t be lonely. Finding a meaningful connection and creating an emotional tie with someone, such as by helping a fellow student understand his notes or providing water for a Race for the Cure participant, are ways of overcoming loneliness that lead to high-quality relationships (Hawkley & Cacioppo, 2010).