Chapter 4 Self-Quiz: Discover Your Attachment Style

Self-Quiz: Discover Your Attachment Style

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One determinant of how quickly you’ll reveal yourself to others and form intimate relationships is your attachment style: secure, preoccupied, dismissive, or fearful. To gauge your attachment style, select the answer option that best represents your view of intimacy.

Please note that your score for this activity will not be recorded unless your instructor has assigned the activity.

Note: The material provided in this Self-Quiz is adapted from Bartholomew and Horowitz (1991, p. 244).

Which of the following statements best represents your view of intimacy?

Choice A. I am comfortable without close emotional relationships. It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.

Choice B. It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others. I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me.

Choice C. I want to be emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I worry that others don’t value me as much as I value them.

Choice D. I am uncomfortable getting close to others. I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become intimate with others.

You chose Attachment Style A. This indicates that you have a dismissive attachment style. You have little need for closeness and allow others to get to know you slowly, if at all.

You chose Attachment Style B. This indicates that you have a secure attachment style. You reveal your self at a steady pace, and you enjoy intimacy.

You chose Attachment Style C. This indicates that you have a preoccupied attachment style. You likely unveil your self hurriedly because of your need to feel loved.

You chose Attachment Style D. This indicates that you have a fearful attachment style. You sometimes shut people out completely, as intimacy makes you feel vulnerable.