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No matter the situation or setting, disagreements inevitably crop up as a group works together on a project. Some conflict is helpful. For example, when members express honest disagreement about proposed plans of action, they help minimize the risk of groupthink. But interpersonal conflicts that have nothing to do with the group’s mission only create distraction. Whenever conflict arises in your group, strive to either minimize it or channel it in a productive direction. The following guidelines can help.

Refer to Ideas by Topic, Not by Person. Focus on the content of specific suggestions rather than attributing those suggestions to individual members. For example, suppose you’re part of a group that’s trying to get a candidate elected as head of the town council. Monique advocates a mass e-mail to build support for the candidate, but Tim thinks that leafleting would be better. Refer to these ideas as “the e-mail plan” and “the leafleting plan” rather than “Monique’s idea” and “Tim’s suggestion.” When ideas get associated with an individual, that person may develop a feeling of personal investment in that option. He or she may thus become defensive if the proposal is criticized—even if it has real shortcomings.

Resolve Conflicts Quickly. If a conflict between group members becomes distracting, try to resolve it rather than allowing it to continue or repressing it. Give the members who disagree an equal opportunity to explain their perspective; let each person speak without interruption, and then ask other members for their views. If both people’s ideas have merit, perhaps you can help the group find a solution that draws the best from each perspective. As leader, you may ultimately need to offer your opinion or vote in order to break a deadlock on an issue, but try to give group members an opportunity to speak before injecting your opinion.

Focus on Tasks, Not Disagreements. To help members concentrate on the task at hand rather than interpersonal tensions that may be simmering, articulate desired changes in behavior rather than criticizing individuals: “Let’s get back to discussing our project,” not “Sally, your answers to Noah’s questions are always so sarcastic.”

A personality clash may better be solved by discussing the problem in private with the members who disagree rather than airing the conflict in front of the entire group. If there is a member who gets along well with the people experiencing the conflict, he or she may be able to help them find a way to manage their disagreement.

Manage Disruptive Emotions. Conflicts can spark intense and disruptive emotions within a group. Even after a conflict has been resolved, members may still feel angry, upset, or embarrassed and may withdraw from the discussion. If this happens, bring reluctant members back into the discussion by inviting their input on important issues.