7.6 How to Communicate: Active Listening

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HOW TO COMMUNICATE|Video Skills

ACTIVE LISTENING

image One way to improve your communication competence is by adapting your messages to others’ behaviors. Learn how to navigate difficult conversations by completing the How to Communicate video activity below.

CONSIDER THIS:

Reynaldo, a close friend, asks you to critique an informative speech he’s preparing for class. However, during the rehearsal, he breaks down emotionally, confessing that his father—who has been increasingly forgetful—has recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

The following advice illustrates how active listening skills can help you communicate with and comfort someone in distress. As you watch the video, consider how the dialogue incorporates skills like adapting listening functions, managing feedback, and recognizing the value of silence when appropriate. Then, test your knowledge of key skills, and create your own responses to the What if? video prompts.

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image ADAPT YOUR LISTENING FUNCTION from analytical to support, and adopt a people-oriented style that expresses empathy for your friend and his family. (“I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts go out to you and your father. How are you both holding up?”)

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image MANAGE YOUR FEEDBACK by making your attentiveness obvious. Put away your phone, provide eye contact, and lean toward him. (“What can I do to help out?”)

image RECOGNIZE THE VALUE OF SILENCE by not rushing to fill the conversational space with your own talk (“My grandmother also had Alzheimer’s . . .”). Instead, let your friend speak as he wishes.

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Chapter 7: QUESTION: Why is the suggestion to “set up another time to practice, and for now, we just go grab something to eat” an example of active listening?