Win-Win

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When both participants in a conflict discuss the situation and arrive at a solution that fully satisfies each of them, the conflict has been resolved in a win-win manner. Thinking back to the key lime pie incident, if sisters Leslie and Kathy use that conflict to work through their issue of having to share everything, they may be able to arrive at a variety of solutions to the problem and strengthen their relationship in the process. They might agree to pool their money for a second computer or come up with a system for sharing certain items of clothing while placing others offlimits. Through such “win-win” solutions, both parties can meet their own goals (unlimited computer access, a bigger wardrobe), help the other with her goals, and improve their relationship.