Getting Serious with Relationships

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Not only does college present an opportunity to make lots of new friends, it is also a place where romantic relationships flourish. Although some beginning college students are married or are already in long-term committed relationships, others might have their first serious romance with someone they meet on campus. If you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered, you might find it much easier to meet romantic partners in college than you ever have before. Whatever your sexual orientation, you’ll have many opportunities; some students will sample lots of different choices, and others will settle in with just one person. Either way, you’ll grow and learn a great deal about yourself and those with whom you become involved. If you are seriously thinking about marriage or a long-term commitment, consider this fact: Studies show that the younger you are, the lower are your odds of a successful marriage. Also, a “trial marriage” or living together does not necessarily decrease your risk of later divorce. It is important not to marry before both you and your partner are certain about who you are and what you want in life. Many eighteen- to twenty-year-olds change their outlook and life goals drastically as they get older, which can negatively affect a romantic relationship.