Document 27.2 GLORIA STEINEM, Women Freeing the Men, Too (1970)

DOCUMENT 27.2 | GLORIA STEINEM, Women Freeing the Men, Too (1970)

Many women’s liberation proponents believed that fundamentally rethinking gender and family issues in America required changing the hearts and minds of men. Leading activist Gloria Steinem argued this point in a commencement speech she delivered at Vassar College in New York in 1970, which was reprinted in the Washington Post.

This is the year of Women’s Liberation. Or at least, it’s the year the press has discovered a movement that has been strong for several years now, and reported it as a small, privileged, rather lunatic event instead of the major revolution in consciousnessin everyone’s consciousness, male or femalethat I believe it truly is.

It is a movement that some call “feminist” but should more accurately be called humanist; a movement that is an integral part of rescuing this country from its old, expensive patterns of elitism, racism and violence.

The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn. We are filled with the popular wisdom of several centuries just past, and we are terrified to give it up. Patriotism means obedience, age means wisdom, woman means submission, black means inferior: these are preconceptions imbedded so deeply in our thinking that we honestly may not know that they are there. . . .

I don’t want to give the impression, though, that we want to join society exactly as it is. I don’t think most women want to pick up briefcases and march off to meaningless, depersonalized jobs. Nor do we want to be draftedand women certainly should be drafted; even the readers of Seventeen magazine were recently polled as being overwhelmingly in favor of women in national serviceto serve in a war like the one in Indochina.

We want to liberate men from those inhuman roles as well. We want to share the work and responsibility, and to have men share equal responsibility for the children. Probably the ultimate myth is that children must have full-time mothers, and that liberated women make bad ones. The truth is that most American children seem to be suffering from too much mother and too little father.

Women now spend more time with their homes and families than in any other past or present society we know about. To get back to the sanity of the agrarian or joint family system, we need free universal day care. With that aid, as in Scandinavian countries, and with laws that permit women equal work and equal pay, man will be relieved of his role as sole breadwinner and stranger to his own children.

No more alimony. Fewer boring wives. Fewer childlike wives. No more so-called “Jewish mothers,” who are simply normally ambitious human beings with all their ambitiousness confined to the house. No more wives who fall apart with the first wrinkle because they’ve been taught that their total identity depends on their outsides. No more responsibility for another adult human being who has never been told she is responsible for her own life, and who sooner or later says some version of, “If I hadn’t married you, I could have been a star.” Women’s Liberation really is Men’s Liberation, too.

The family system that will emerge is a great subject of anxiety. Probably there will be a variety of choices. Colleague marriages, such as young people have now, with both partners going to law school or the Peace Corps together, is one alternative. At least they share more than the kitchen and the bedroom. Communes; marriages that are valid for the child-rearing years onlythere are many possibilities.

The point is that Women’s Liberation is not destroying the American family. It is trying to build a human, compassionate alternative out of its ruins.

Source: Washington Post, June 7, 1970, B1.