Agentic Friendships

Friends also help us achieve practical goals in both our personal and our professional lives. They help us study for exams, fix cars, move apartments, and complete professional projects. Friendships in which the parties focus primarily on helping each other achieve practical goals are known as agentic friendships (Rawlins, 1992). Agentic friends value sharing time together—but only if they’re available and have no other priorities. They also aren’t interested in the emotional interdependence and intimate self-disclosure that characterize communal friendships. They’re available when the need arises, but beyond that, they’re uncomfortable with more personal demands or responsibilities. For example, an agentic friend from work may gladly help you write up a monthly sales report, but she may feel uncomfortable if you ask her for advice about your romantic problems.

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Although less intimate than communal friendships, people in agentic friendships can help each other with practical tasks and other goals like moving. Can you recall a time when an agentic friend helped you achieve a significant goal?

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Self-Reflection

Do you have more communal or agentic friends? How do you communicate differently with the two types of friends? Which type of friend do you depend on more, day to day? Why?

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