Improving Your Perception of Others

Malcolm X is most remembered for his fiery rhetoric denouncing white racism and his rejection of nonviolent protest as a means for dealing with oppression. Less well known is the marked change in his perception and communication that occurred following his visit to Saudi Arabia. Malcolm traveled to Mecca for a traditional Muslim hajj, or pilgrimage. During his visit, he worshipped, ate, socialized, and slept in the same room with white Muslims. In doing so, he was shocked to discover that despite their differences in skin color, they all shared similar degrees of religious devotion. The experience was a revelation, and led him to reassess his long-standing belief in an unbridgeable racial divide between whites and blacks.

Malcolm’s transformation suggests important lessons for everyone interested in improving his or her own perception and communication. He came to appreciate others’ perspectives and feel a strong emotional kinship with those he previously disparaged. He accepted others’ beliefs as legitimate and deserving of respect. He also freely called into question his own perceptual accuracy by critically assessing his prior judgments. These changes reveal two ways we can improve our perception and interpersonal communication: offering empathy and checking our perception.

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After 1964, Malcolm X’s perception changed as his belief shifted to a view “recognizing every human being as a human being, neither white, black, brown, nor red.”

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