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Hannah: Emotion regulation is the ability to manage your own emotions and feelings.

Jeremy: Five strategies of emotional regulation are situation selection, situation modification, attentional deployment, cognitive change, and response modulation.

Hannah: Situation selection, for example, I was a cheerleader in high school, and my coach always made me feel like I didn't even belong on the team and I shouldn't have made it. So what I did is I ended up leaving my school's cheer team and I went onto a gym to tumble at. So for my best interest, I was still doing what I loved, but with coaches who were more positive about it.

Tea: Situation modification is when you can't choose the situation, so you try to modify it as best you can. So if you're doing a group project with someone and you don't really like them, maybe you try to work together in as efficient way as possible so you don't have to spend a lot of time with them. So maybe you try to do as much as possible outside of meeting with them, so you set up a presentation beforehand, and maybe you just go over the bare minimum when you're with them, or maybe just do a dry run of your presentation, and then when you get home, you add the rest in or you do all your research separately and then only come together when it comes to practicing.

Kamila: An example a situation modification is my friend as w on a date by this guy she didn't really want to see, but they were in the same class and she didn't want to make it awkward. So she made it a group thing, and we all went together so she didn't have to spend any alone time with him, but she also didn't hurt his feelings.

Tea: Attentional deployment is when you can't choose or modify your situation, so instead, you direct your attention within it. Maybe you're at a family reunion and that one uncle that you just never really got along with is there and he's trying to engage you in conversation. You kind of go along with it know to please your mother, but instead, maybe you concentrate more on the pastry you're eating, or you play with the dog, or you think about other things while they're talking so you don't really directly engage with them.

Hannah: Cognitive change is knowing that you can't fix the situation, so you just try to make it positive anyways. I work at a daycare, and there's two teachers per room, and the teacher that I work, with she doesn't do anything. She doesn't help out with the kids and she doesn't clean. But I want to be an elementary teacher, so I try to look at it as that I'm running my own classroom already, and it's OK that she's not helping me, because this is what it's going to be like in the future anyways.

Brandi: Cognitive change is an emotional regulation strategy. I used it when I was little when my dad passed away. Well, I guess when I got older, as time went on, I thought if my dad hadn't passed away, then I would never be as close as I am to my sisters and my mom. This was my way of dealing with that emotion, and I used the cognitive change.

Jeremy: A time when I used emotion regulation was whenever I was in middle school was response modulation. It was a time where I guess I got picked on a lot. I mean, you know how that is. Middle school kids are kind of cruel. I guess they're just starting to go through puberty, and they're not really thinking.

So having to just hold in those emotions, to press them about they're going to make fun of you, and the only thing they're doing is trying to get a reaction. So if you give them that reaction, it just feeds the fire, and they're just going to keep doing it. So that was definitely a time where I used that particular emotion regulation to not elicit a response because they're just going to feed into it.

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