Self-Actualization

The most positive evaluation you can make about your competence level is referred to as self-actualization—the feelings and thoughts you get when you know that you have negotiated a communication situation as well as you possibly could. At times like these, you have a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. For example, Shari, a school psychologist, was having problems with the third-grade teacher of one of the students she counsels. The teacher seemed uninterested in the student’s performance, would not return Shari’s phone calls or e-mails, and seemed curt and aloof when they did speak. Shari finally decided to confront the teacher. Although she was nervous at first about saying the right thing, she later felt very good about the experience. The teacher had seemed shocked at the criticism but offered an apology. At the end of the meeting, Shari was quite content that she had been honest and assertive, as well as fair and understanding. This positive assessment of her behavior led to a higher level of self-esteem. When Shari needs to confront someone in the future, she will likely feel more confident about doing so.

AND YOU?

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Think about a communication situation in your own life in which you believe that you achieved self-adequacy. Were you content with the outcome of the situation, or did you still desire more self-improvement? Why? Is it possible to feel both contentment as well as a desire for self-improvement in your communication situation?