Think of a current romantic relationship (or, if you are not in one now, think of a past one). As you assess your partner’s traits and behaviors, use a five-point scale for your answers: 5 = strongly agree; 4 = agree; 3 = neither agree nor disagree; 2 = disagree; and 1 = extremely disagree.
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1. My partner laughs at my jokes. |
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2. My partner makes appropriate jokes or comments. |
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3. My partner is physically attractive to me. |
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4. My partner is affectionate.. |
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5. My partner wears clothes I like. |
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6. My partner has a pleasing personality. |
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7. My partner and I have similar views about religion. |
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8. My partner and I have similar views about children. |
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9. My partner shares emotions appropriately. |
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10. My partner acknowledges my feelings. |
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11. My partner fits in with my friends. |
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12. My partner fits in with my family. |
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13. My partner and I share similar dreams for the future. |
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14. My partner enjoys hobbies and activities similar to mine. |
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15. My partner and I agree about career paths. |
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16. My partner appreciates my racial and ethnic background. |
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17. My partner manages finances well. |
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18. My partner appreciates my political views. |
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19. My partner overlooks my shortcomings. |
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20. My partner is an interesting person. |
Your score: out of 100
You perceive your relationship as having more costs than rewards, and you might consider ways to fix or end it.
You see both costs and rewards in your relationship and are able to balance these effectively
You perceive your relationship as very rewarding on a number of levels and are likely to value and maintain this relationship
Note: The importance of certain costs and rewards varies greatly from individual to individual, so the weighting of particular traits (for example, physical attraction or similarity of views) may vary.