2.4.2 self-QUIZ: Discover Your Attachment Style

Discover Your Attachment Style

One determinant of how quickly you’ll reveal yourself to others and form intimate relationships is your attachment style (discussed on (pages 47–48 in this chapter): secure, preoccupied, dismissive,or fearful. To gauge your attachment style, select the set of beliefs that best represents your view of intimacy. Then view your choice in the key below.

Attachment Style A
  • I am comfortable without close emotional relationships.
  • It is very important to me to feel independent and self-sufficient, and I prefer not to depend on others or have others depend on me.

    • Attachment Style B
  • It is easy for me to become emotionally close to others.
  • I am comfortable depending on others and having others depend on me.

    		•  Attachment Style C
  • I want to be emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like.
  • I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I worry that others don’t value me as much as I value them.

    • Attachment Style D
  • I am uncomfortable getting close to others.
  • I worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become intimate with others.

    • Note: The material provided in this Self-Quiz is adapted from Bartholomew and Horowitz (1991, p. 244).