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key terms
self
self-awareness
social comparison
self-concept
looking-glass self
self-concept clarity
self-fulfilling prophecies
self-esteem
self-discrepancy theory
gender
secure attachment
preoccupied attachment
dismissive attachment
fearful attachment
culture
face
mask
embarrassment
warranting value
social penetration theory
intimacy
self-disclosure
interpersonal process model of intimacy
key concepts
The Components of Self
The root source of all interpersonal communication is the self, an evolving composite of self-awareness, self-concept, and self-esteem.
We make sense of ourselves and our communication by comparing our behaviors with those of others. Social comparison has a pronounced impact on our sense of self when the people to whom we’re comparing ourselves are those we admire.
Our self-concept is defined in part through our looking-glass self. When we have a clearly defined, consistent, and enduring sense of self, we possess self-concept clarity.
It is challenging to have positive self-esteem while living in a culture dominated by images of perfection. Self-discrepancy theory explains the link between these standards and our feelings about our selves, and ways we can overcome low self-esteem.
The Sources of Self
When our families teach us gender lessons, they also create emotional bonds with us that form the foundation for various attachment styles, including secure, preoccupied, dismissive, and fearful attachment.
Many of us identify with more than one culture and can be thrust into situations in which we must choose a primary cultural allegiance.
Presenting Your Self
The face we present to others is the self that others perceive and evaluate. Sometimes our face reflects our inner selves, and sometimes we adopt masks.
Information posted about you online has higher warranting value than what you post directly.
The Relational Self
According to social penetration theory, we develop relationships by delving deeper and more broadly into different layers of self. The more we reveal, the more intimacy we feel with others.
Revealing private information about ourselves to others is self-disclosure, which, along with the responsiveness of listeners to such disclosure, makes up the interpersonal process model of intimacy.